• Damsel In Dating Distress


You know that dating isn't just for two people right? What I'm about to delve into is the solo date, and by far the most influential relationship in your life. Dating yourself is one of the key things you can do for your mind and self care. There's a multitude of benefits which include, boosting your confidence, strengthening your sense of independence, pushing you outside of your comfort zone, increasing your self awareness and dedicating time to do something you enjoy. My aim for this post is to encourage you (if you haven’t already) to start dating yourself regardless of your relationship status.


I think of myself as a combination of both introvert and extrovert so I believe that finding joy in spending time alone will work for everyone. Relationship or not, once I started learning how to appreciate my own company, I couldn't get enough of it! Having this quality time by myself allows me to reflect on all of the events and interactions I encounter. I often replay moments back in my mind to see how I'm feeling emotionally and physically then adjust accordingly. I utilise this time in a number of ways, as long as I'm doing something that's either thought-provoking, relaxing, creative, active, and fun — it's a moment dedicated just for me with just me. Some of my favourite things to do are talking long strolls in the park, sitting in my local coffee shop with a beverage and a slice of cake, going to a cute place for brunch or lunch, treating myself to a beauty session, checking out a food market, visiting a cool art exhibition, gallery or museum, and simply just sitting in my room in silence with my knitting or watching a film/series.


Understandably some people prefer to have constant company by their side, the words "solitude" or "isolation" probably surface feelings of unease but it doesn't have to be that way. While it might not feel natural at first, being alone and entirely comfortable — like with most things, takes time and practice. How many times have you denied yourself the joy of trying a new hobby, food or movie simply because your friends or partner didn't want to try it with you? You don't have to do what everyone else wants... and that's the beauty of self-dating! You'll be surprised at how much enjoyment you have. The more time you carve out to take care and love yourself through these solo dates, the more you'll feel the value of this type of recharging and understand how much it'll boost your confidence in all areas of your life. Start with something easy and low key like cooking a meal for yourself or going for a walk in the park.

Being able to fully enjoy life and be at your happiest starts with having a good relationship with yourself. When life gets so hectic and busy, spending time alone may be exactly what you need to refocus and find inner peace.

Thanks for reading everyone, I hope you secure yourself a great date in the coming days! 😉 I'd love to know what you did and how it goes 🥰 Sending so much love x

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