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What I'm about to say in today's post might get scoffed at, and there's a likely chance you'll think: "Well this woman has zero knowledge about Astrology!" — That's right, I'm not a star sign nerd by any means and I'm not here to tell you what to believe, only why I believe what I do. You may have heard me say in one of my earlier podcast episodes that I don't use star signs as an indicator of overall compatibility but I'm open-minded so if a friend shares zodiac-related information with me, I won't dismiss it or roll my eyes, I'm just saying the predictions and personality summaries based on the 12 signs should be taken with a teeny, tiny pinch of salt.


Seeing as I chose to write about this topic (kind of regret it now as there's a lot of ground to cover!) it would make sense for me to do some research, so let start by giving a very brief description about the ancient history of Astrology... Astrology has been regarded as a science, an art, and a form of divination. Based on a system worked out by the Babylonians around the 5th century BCE, it started with the observation of the sky. The fundamental reason was to be able to predict when the best time was to plant seeds to produce the most fruitful harvest. Astrology was considered a science as it was based on observation followed by calculation, giving predictable results. In fact Astronomy and Astrology were once considered the same subject until the 1600s when Sir Isaac Newton made some scientific discoveries (which I won't go into) thus creating a split between the two practices. Today, Astrology has been strongly proven to be a pseudoscience with no working mechanism behind it. That said, the phenomenon has turned into a billion dollar industry worldwide. India in particular has a massive market for it — now, more so than ever with the advancement of technology. So after observations of the cosmos through hundreds of years, it's believed that the alignment of stars and planets at the time of a person's birth has a direct influence on their character — from mood, personality, and environment. From some, Astrology is used as a powerful tool to understand ourselves, others, and the world around us.


First of all I'm a Taurus and according to Astrology, my most compatible zodiac matches are: Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn, and Pisces. It's stated that us bull-headed bastards are highly compatible with water signs as these emotional signs can help bring out our gentle side; while the Taurean's least compatible matches are Sagittarius, Gemini and Aries. In terms of personality traits, Tauruses enjoy relaxing in serene environments, we're hard working, ambitious, dependable, resilient, loyal, stubborn, and enjoy the finer things in life. Now I don't mean to sound cynical but surely everyone shares these traits to a certain degree? Yes, I know... star signs are more than just the regular zodiac symbols, we need to take into account the moon sign and the rising (ascendant) sign. For those who are unaware, the moon sign reflects our inner, emotional self, and the rising sign indicates our outer self, or who we appear to be when meeting someone new (yep I've done my research!) Interestingly when people have tried to guess my sign, I've had: "You're definitely a Scorpio!", "Are you a Virgo?", "Based on that fieriness, you must be a Leo!"...and for the sake of throwing another curveball into the mix, check out this article! I mean, what's that all about!? So anyway I've dated many different signs in my life, I spent a bit of time trying to remember all my ex's and former flame's birthdays to figure out what they were, so here's the (not full) list:

  • Gemini x 3

  • Sagittarius

  • Libra x 2

  • Capricorn

  • Virgo

  • Cancer

  • Scorpio

  • Pisces

Funnily enough, the relationships and dates I enjoyed most were with Geminis, I had the most common ground with Pisces, the biggest headaches came from Libras, and the sign that left me with a very sour taste was Scorpio! All in all, I'm just not convinced star signs have any correlation with compatibility. To reiterate my point even further, in 2007 a research team from the University of Manchester conducted a study called "Ten million marriages: A test of astrological love signs." In this study, the team reviewed 10 million marriages in the UK and looked at the zodiac signs of each couple. Results found that one's zodiac sign has no impact on marrying and staying married to someone of a sign that is incompatible with theirs. When dating someone new I don't cyber-stalk let alone read up their star sign, I much prefer to take people and things at face value which allows me to live honestly, without any preconceived judgement, and be in the present moment. I feel there are many other factors to consider when it comes to romantic relationships for example sharing core values and beliefs, complementary interests, similar sense of humour, showing empathy, great communication, etc. Equally for many of us, our mindsets change overtime through experiences and maturity; someone who might've been compatible with their partner five years ago, might not necessarily be compatible now.


So now you know where I stand with star signs and compatibility. I truly believe finding love and a good match is a much deeper type of connection which supersedes all signs. For those who pay a lot of attention to astrology, please don't let it be an excuse to move on and not bother with a potential suitor! Maybe it just means you'll need to work harder together in your relationship; after all compromise is important and always possible. As long as the person you're with makes you happy and is mature enough to highlight and work on their flaws, I think that's pretty impressive! Enjoy the dating process everyone! x

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